A Promotion and some thoughts on Marriage.

My Marine got promoted to Gunnery Sergeant Wednesday. And he let me pin him! 

I am so very proud of him and the things he has accomplished. Even being on Recruiting Duty, a notoriously hard assignment, he has managed to be selected for promotion. This promotion has opened some doors for us, and I have some exciting? news coming up soon. (not going to Okinawa, yet)

But I have been thinking about my husband and all the ups and downs we have had, the adventures we have had together, all of our experiences. I wonder is it because the military forces us to live our lives the way we do, with long often unpredictable duty hours, frequent separations, and moving every 3ish years, that we have such an open line of communication. I can’t really think of anything I can’t talk to him about. My feelings, my hopes and dreams, our families, or finances. Yeah there are things that no one wants to discuss (money, unless it’s a recent mega millions win) but I can’t imagine being married to someone and not being able to discuss something with them. That person is your partner, your mate, you should be able to discuss things with them.
Being pregnant I often find myself reading pregnancy forums, and I guess third trimester everyone is cranky, because in the December due forum I read most often, there is a lot of complaining (I complain too, so I am not ragging on the complaint department).
 Last night I read several different posts where the wife stated “I just can’t talk to my husband about this” and it’s not about things like ooky body issues, or stuff only a pregnant person would understand.
 It’s stuff like “I don’t like the name he picked out” Ummmm it’s a child that was made between the two of you, you can’t name your child something you hate… and then there was a “My MIL bought blah blah and I hate it, but I can’t tell him” okay First I love my MIL, but if she wanted to buy us something that we didn’t need or didn’t like I would tell her, and if I felt for some reason I couldn’t tell her you’d be damn sure I’d tell my husband. But I like my MIL and maybe part of that is the reason I wouldn’t be uncomfortable if I needed to discuss something with her.
I’ve seen gripes about money before, women who feel they can’t talk to their husbands about money, or their spending habits. Now that’s just stupid.  I think not being able to discuss things, as an adult, with the person you married is just dumb. Now I know many people have discussions, money in particular, that cause fights, Paul and I occasionally have heated discussions about this subject. But with my current situation, harboring a baby human in me, I find myself worrying a little more. So this issue in particular has been a little more frequent, but we usually resolve it within a short time.
I am not one of those people who runs around telling everyone what I think of them or their situation or voicing my opinion, I avoid confrontation and I do have an issue with authority. Talking to people who I feel have an authority over me makes me nervous. Like at work, I don’t like discussing serious matters with my supervisors, it just makes me nervous. I don’t see my husband as an authority figure, I think we are equals, if anything I am the authority j/k. I think if more people went into a relationship as equals there would be more harmony, and I really think that you should feel comfortable talking to your significant other about anything, even ooky girl stuff.

– Alana
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About alanamarie26

Marine Wife, Mom, Student. Trying to keep a household running while going to school full time.
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6 Responses to A Promotion and some thoughts on Marriage.

  1. Holly says:

    This is great! Congrats to him! I agree… married couples should be able to talk about anything! Sometimes one of the persons in the marriage are so stubborn or cannot cooperate, and that is very sad. Many women find themselves in that situation, I know. But talking about anything is so important. We should feel like we can talk to the person we are closest to and depend on him/her!

  2. Congrats on the promotion! That is wonderful! And I love your post. You are absolutely right! If people are going to have families together, they have to learn to communicate… everything! Otherwise raising a new kiddo will bring all it's own communication issues! Newest follower!

  3. Jane says:

    Congrats to your husband!! And, holy cow that other guy is the tallest person I have ever seen. A-freaking-men to everything you said. It boggles my mind how anyone could not be comfortable telling their spouse something that they do feel comfortable enough to share with a bunch of strangers online. I definitely think it's a big sign of maturity.

  4. Agree 100%!And congrats to your husband!

  5. Danafox says:

    Huge congratulations to your husband!! One hell of an achievement!!! I shall refer to him as Gunny until his next promotion. 😉

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